Parenting style

In the world today, there are a number of family units which include single parents, same sex unions or the traditional family of husband and wife. No matter which structure one chooses if children are involved, they should be part of a loving and supportive family. While parenting styles vary, all of this system can have good parenting styles. Growing up in Dubai, I was part of the traditional family unit of husband and wife. For this reason, I feel that those parenting styles that include the father or a male figure provide the best for the child. However, the father or male must be a caring a supportive partner The father is important to the family structure because he can provide financial support, assist with the caretaking responsibilities, share in role modeling and provide a more stable environment for the children.

Although there are some cases where the single parent is male, in most cases the mother is the parent, and often she has at least two or three children to take care of by herself. This can put a tremendous strain on her if she has to take of the all the financial responsibilities, especially on just one source of income. The fixed expenses alone such as rent, utilities, phone and cable can consume most of a paycheck. Then other expenses such as groceries, clothing, and school supplies have to be included. If there is a father in the home, he can help reduce

Some of this financial burden and reduce some of the stress and tensions it brings to the mother. This will allow her to interact with the children in more positive way because children can sense when their parents are dealing with stressful issues. For this to work, both partners must be willing to combine their income, at least most of it, and work a budget to properly manage the money to make sure there is enough each month to go toward the monthly expenses. If they do this, they will probably have money left over for extras such as taking the children out to McDonalds, buying them special treats or just going on an outing as a family.

For some reason, fathers seem to be more willing to share in the expenses when they live in the household with their family than when they live outside the home even when mandated by the courts. This is probably because they feel more connected and part of the family when they live in the household. When men are single, they have their own individual expenses, the same as the mother and do not want to part with this money even if goes to their children. Not all fathers avoid taking care of their financial responsibilities when they are single or separated or divorced from their mate. Some may give an occasional sum of money to their children or send a check through the court system to keep from being arrested. When the mother has to constantly ask their ex’s for child support or push the child support system to action to collect the funds, it can create animosities between the two of them which can affect the children making them feel insecure or even responsible.

Single parents have to bear the responsibility of taking care of the family and the basic house hold responsibilities. A father or male figure can share in these responsibilities leaving time for the mother and father to share in the responsibilities of caring for the children’s emotional and physical needs. Sometimes fathers feel if they work all day, they should be able to come in sit in the big chair for the rest of the evening. However, by helping out both parents can have a chance to relax. Most times the female mate is considerate of the father’s hard work and will only ask for help with a few chores such as taking out the garbage, cutting the lawn or taking care of some household repair. Not only does this relieve some of the burden from the mother, it teaches the children responsibilities and is more willing to do whatever chores they have to do. The father could have older children help him do certain chores around the house to allow them to bond more closely. So, not only should the father assist with household duties, he should also help with caring for the children. Without a male figure in the home, the single parent has to take care of the basic needs of the children, which include medical when they are sick, helping with homework, soothing their fears in the middle of the night, taking them to school and extra fun events. If she is tired from taking care of the other responsibilities, having a father or male family member in the home to share in this important part of children’s lives can make them feel safe and provide a more stable environment. For some reason, children just seem to have more fun with their fathers on fun outings such as the park or a family picnic. Having the father in the home to share in different aspect of the parenting can assist the mother in serving as role models for the children by both of them through their own actions. This does not mean that couples are not going to have arguments, disagreements or even become angry with each other, but whenever these instances occur, they should try to solve them in a dignified way.

When it comes to taking care of children, there are a numerous parenting styles and family units that can be successful if the main goal is to foster a loving and supportive home for the children. However, a home with two loving parents, a mother and father, proves to be more beneficial to the children because they can combine their resources, income, emotional and physical strengths, their teaching talents and life experiences to care for and nurture their children.